Mother’s Day is a beautiful celebration of motherhood and the influence that mothers have in the world. Meant to be a joyous day to feel content and amazed with our roles as mothers, often it can turn into a day where we focus on all the qualities that we “lack.” My heart goes out to any who may be experiencing these feelings of inadequacy and I hope to bring you some peace and comfort as we go into our Mother’s Day weekend.
Here are a few things you need to hear this Mother’s Day:
You are not alone!
I can guarantee you that all moms have feelings of not doing enough, being enough, loving enough, caring enough, etc. etc. etc. No matter what you see on social media, realizing that we are all in this together can actually help loosen the expectations that we put on ourselves.
You are human.
We all make mistakes. We are all flawed. We all say and do things we don’t mean and then regret that we can’t take them back. The beautiful thing about being human is that we were never designed to be perfect in this life. We are doing the best we can, and that’s all anyone has ever asked of us.
Tomorrow is a new day.
On days where you don’t feel like a good mom, try not to dwell on it (you’re human, remember?). Everyone has off days, and you are no exception. Take each day as the new opportunity that it is to learn and grow.
You need to forgive yourself.
This one is HUGE. Our world today is filled with so much judgement that we tend to have unreasonably high expectations from ourselves as mothers. I PROMISE you, the only person who matters thinks you’re doing a wonderful job. Those hugs and kisses you get at the end of every day just prove it. Love yourself, accept your flaws, be a ninja-fast forgiver of those things that bring you down.
Lower your expectations of yourself.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing you can do as a mother is love your children. Just because you don’t play with them 24/7, or get them everything they want, or you yell at them, or you need some time away from them, or any number of things…it doesn’t take away that bond, that love, or your worthiness as a mom. You are doing WAY better than you think you are. I promise.